Being a recruiter is rough. It’s like you’re dating multiple people hoping that the “like” is mutual and gets reciprocated. Towards the end of summer, I gave out offers for internships the following summer, just like how I would ask someone to be my significant other and make a commitment. Multiple people were also invested in these offers– the professionals I had conduct interviews. After giving out the offer, waiting to hear back was nerve wracking. Know that we’re not the only firm students talked with this summer, I have to wonder… are we the one??
I gave out multiple offers and received multiple rejections. I hated checking my emails every day because I need to hold my breath and brace myself. One professional forwarded me the rejection email and said he felt like he was being broken up with. Another professional forwarded me a similar email and said he was going to wallow. I told them I was going to dig into my stash of ice cream as well.
As I get into the bulk of my recruiting season this fall, I know that there’s going to be a lot of wins, but both parties may face some rejection as well. Here are my quick tips to face rejection, whether it’s job related or with a romantic relationship:
- Know that it’s not the end of the world. Take a couple days to be sad, but don’t sulk in it for too long. Know that there’s plenty of other opportunities out there and just because this particular one didn’t work out doesn’t mean others won’t. Be patient and it will fall in place when it should.
- Set reasonable goals for yourself. Draw up a plan of attack and actually keep to it. Having a goal in mind will not only help you feel accomplished, but keep you on track as well. Focus on what really counts and eliminate any distractions or obstacles that may get in your way.
- Have a good support system. Friends, family, mentors, strangers… surround yourself with whoever can support you and help encourage you. Don’t be afraid to ask your network for help. With all your social media and in person connections, don’t hesitate to ask anyone for advice. You would be amazed at how many people would be flattered that you asked.
- Have something to look forward to. Treat yourself. With every milestone, you need to have something to look forward to whether it’s ice cream or a trip. The main thing is to do something for yourself that makes you happy. 🙂
- Don’t give up. It’s going to hard, times will get rough and lonely, but no matter what you do, don’t give up. Persistence is key to finding what you truly want so create that plan and modify as needed!
I’ve definitely been rejected from multiple jobs and had my heartbroken plenty of times, but I like to keep these 5 points in mind so that I can look forward to what I can potentially have next instead of wallowing from what I don’t have. I’m not going to lie… it’s not easy and it will take a lot of willpower, but in the end, you will eventually find what fits for you and ultimately find your peanut butter.
Best of luck!!