This weekend, I went to Universal Studios and got dragged into the Walking Dead walking tour. Knowing I get scared out of my mind easily and don’t like anything gory, I was really hesitant to go in. But for some reason, I went for it. Honestly, it was probably because of FOMO, but more because I wanted to test my comfort zone. Anyway, I went in and was immediately disgusted. I regret going in. On the other hand, I really wanted to prove to myself that I can make it out.
There was this one point where someone left through the emergency exit in the middle. I was this close to walking out as well, but I stayed and made it through. It honestly made me think. Here are some of my strange reflections just from this event:
- Don’t give up. There’s been many times at work where I wanted to give up on a task or in a relationship where I thought took much effort, when in reality, I was just being lazy. I need to remind myself that everything has obstacles, and it takes a lot of willpower to overcome them. When I do, it’s worth it in the end.
- Don’t let the past dictate your present. I always hear my friends talking about how they can’t “open up” in a new relationship because they’ve been jaded in the past. I always say that if you keep holding yourself back in the past, then you can’t look forward to the future. Be open minded because you are going to be in a new situation with new people. Who says it can’t work out this time?
- Be proud of your accomplishments. I’m a celebration type of person. Getting a promotion or even getting a boyfriend? I know I’m celebrating! (half kidding about the boyfriend). But if we don’t stop to reflect on what we done well, we’re just going to continue never being satisfied.
- Find your support system. Through happy, sad, and scary moments, I always need a support system. Whether its finding/starting a new job or going through a breakup, I make sure that I’m not doing it alone. Find people who are there for you the most and keep them close.
- Try something new. Sometimes, you don’t know you can do it unless you try it. In high school, I was convinced that I could never dance in front of a crowd, even at a school dance. In college, I was somehow in my organization’s Fashion Talent Show, center stage. Go figure. All I really needed was the push and the right attitude.
- But, also know your limits. There could be times where something or someone is just not worth it. When the problem is stressing you out, cannot compromise, or not worth your time, leave it. I’ve honestly been in relationships where I tried too hard to make it work, but at the end of the day, I knew that I’d be better off without them, as hard as it was to come to terms with.
I challenge you to look back at the past couple years of your life. Have you let the above prevent you from doing something? Your job? Your relationships? Well, moving forward, let’s take some time to reflect on things that may scare us, and think about how we can push through or move on.