Last weekend, I was lucky enough to score tickets to the Laker’s game. Though I’m definitely not a Laker’s fan (shhhhh..) it was fun to watch. With every “Ooooh”, “Ahhhh” and “Whoooo”, there was nothing short of excitement on the court.
But as I sat in my box seats munching on my chicken tenders and nachos, I watched the game and kept thinking about working as a team– and it’s definitely not easy! For the Lakers, with every dribble, pass and dunk of basketball, each player had to work together efficiently to meet their goal of accomplishing a task. For us, it may be our job, our friendships, within our family, or romantic relationships that we have to work alongside someone as a team. Working in a team needs:
- Communication. I admit, I’m not always the best at communicating when I’m in a relationship. Sometimes, I’ll be stubborn and make the other person figure out what I’m thinking when I’m mad. However, it’s a lot more effective (and I often times get what I want) if I simply just talk to them and vice versa.
- Trust. When I was in college, I would not trust my classmates in group projects. If we’re given a project to work together on, I didn’t trust them to complete it on time so I made sure I did the work. They proved me wrong and actually completed their section before our given deadline. If I trusted them, I wouldn’t have had to do double the work and could have worked together cohesively.
- Problem Solving. When I was in grad school, I had a problem.. I was too busy to date! I didn’t make time for my boyfriend at the time because I was studying all the time. However, we were able to talk it through and compromise– while I study, they will do something alongside me so we’re still with each other. Just because we were in a relationship didn’t mean we had to do everything the same.
- Respect. I love to think I’m right… who doesn’t? However, I learned to respect upper management because they are more knowledgeable in certain aspects. It’s great to learn from people smarter than me because I will always learn something new.
- Responsibility. I admit, I’m not the most domestic person. I don’t even know how to iron. However, I try to share the responsibility in my relationships where if they cook, I’ll do the dishes. Or, I’ll also take responsibility for my actions if I made a mistake, admit the truth, apologize and try to make it right.
Staring at the court, I admired their effort to work together. Through my past relationships with friends, significant other, and family, I know it’s not easy. However, I need to be proactive if I want to make it work. If I don’t make it work, I’ll simply be forever alone.
I encourage you to look at your relationships to see how you can work together more efficiently. Is there something you already do really well or are there some traits you still need to work on?