I’m flattered that as a recruiter, candidates want to meet me. I love my job and enjoy talking to anyone who’s willing to listen and ask for my advice. I’m a big advocate in the job search process and helping candidates navigate it. However, I’m not the sole decision maker in giving you a job. Don’t get me wrong, I’m the one that coordinates the whole recruiting process and have a say in who stands out, but at the end of the day, I’m not going to be the one working directly with you and therefore, I am not making the hiring decisions.

Similar to finding a job, dating follows the same rules. For example, if your friend introduces you to a date. Your friend would be a good person to give you advice on your date such as their likes, dislikes, mannerisms and personality, but they cannot match you up in a relationship and call it official. It takes you and your date to decide if you want to pursue a relationship together.

As you can see, there are a few people that can help coordinate what job you want or facilitate an introduction to a significant other, but they are not going to be the ones that seals the deal for you.

My suggestions?

  • Get to know the decision maker and develop a relationship.
  • Go to your main point of contact (in this instance, the recruiter or your friend) for insight and to have them as your advocate.
  • Be relatable to the other person to show why you’re a good fit for each other.
  • Don’t be too overbearing; get to know each other at a good pace.
  • Make time to get to know each other. It’s a two way relationship after all.
  • Be patient with hearing back; decisions for commitment can often take time.

There is a lot of time and investment in the recruiting and dating process, but make sure you connect with the right people to pursue what you want. Building a relationship really is key.

Good lucking finding the #onethatsticks!


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