With Christmas over and New Year’s approaching, I have mixed feelings. I’m excited that a new year is coming and I get to “start over”, but I’m also scared that the year is ending and I have nothing to show for or accomplished this year. With the new year looming, it’s even more pressure to create a New Year’s resolution, but I’ve never been good at keeping them. I mean, how many times did I say I was going to the gym? I haven’t even signed up for a membership!
In 2018, I’m changing it up. Instead of making a New Year’s resolution, I’m going to set goals for myself. Before I explain further, here is the definition of both:
New Year’s resolution: A promise that you make a to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year.
Goal: The object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result, purpose
So what does this mean? A New Year’s resolution is pretty much to tell yourself to do something or not. For example, my resolution could be to get a boyfriend. However, how do I get a boyfriend? Do I just sit around waiting for someone to come, or do I have to do something about it? Setting a resolution doesn’t include the steps to what I’m trying to achieve. It doesn’t explain the reason or purpose of why I want to get a boyfriend. I have no direction in what I’m trying to do, so I guess I’m just going to hope I do it.
However, if I set a goal instead, I will have created an end goal and an action plan on how to achieve it. Setting goals will give my life direction and boost my motivation. I recommend setting SMART goals. First, you want to look at the big picture. Then you want to break it down into manageable pieces. It looks something like this:
- S – Specific (or Significant)
- M – Measurable (or Meaningful)
- A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented)
- R – Relevant (or Rewarding)
- T – Time-bound (or Trackable)
For example, instead of saying I want a boyfriend in 2018, I can say that I want a boyfriend by summer (beginning of June) so I can have someone to go on vacation with. I will do this by meeting at least three new guy every month through asking friends, online dating, meetups, and other means. You can see that because I’m more specific, I can keep myself accountable. The great thing about setting goals is it makes you think of what’s really realistic. If it doesn’t work for you anymore, your action plan can always change to what you actually attainable.
In essence, you’re better off setting goals than you are making New Year’s resolution. That way, you will have a more realistic plan of how you can actually achieve what you want to Find Your Peanut Butter and find the #onethatsticks. Happy New Year and happy goal setting!